This being said, it is important to ask yourself if you are a parent thinking you are motivating by constantly saying, " Do your homework!", " Get a job!", Go out for a sport!" "Do your chores!" etc... Why is this not motivating your teen? There is a great chance that your teen has a low self-esteem and low self expections and needs encouragement, praise, and and a sense of confidence that can come from positive feedback from parents. Their peers may be very lethargic and have no ambition which can certainly rub off.
To get your teenagers motivated there are many things to try, here are a few..
- Encourage your teenagers to show some interest in things they are really good at. Challenge them to take their skills and talents as far as they want to take them!
- Teach your teenagers to be positive Risk Takers. Explain to them that in order to achieve special things sometimes it is important to step out of their comfort zone and stretch their limits. They will never know how far they can go without taking a few risks. It is ok to fail, it makes us stronger. This is where growth and learning takes place.
- Teach your teenagers the very important skill of goal setting. It is ok to set your long range goal, but set up small "stepping stone" goals so that success is achieved throughout the journey toward their ultimate goal.
- Teach your teenagers how to be resourceful and to educate themselves via computer, books, personal contacts, research, and experimenting. These tools will help motivate them to discover and learn more about the topic at hand.
- When motivating our teenagers, make it exciting, funny, humerous, memorable, non-judgmental, and energizing... They'll be back for more!
Good Luck Everyone!!! Motivate and Get Motivated, and Stay Motivated!!