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CONNECT/RECONNECT WITH YOUR TEENAGER.
1. Listen to your teen, and step into their reality. Let them know you care and respect their feelings. This promotes trust and more of a chance for continued communication, especially during challenges and conflicts.
2. Teach and support your teenager in how to manage their own life. They are now reaching a very independent age where they desire to demonstrate "responsibility." During the process, ask questions, problem solve, be solution oriented, so that they can achieve these necessary skills.
3. Teach and create boundaries for both you, "the parent" and your teen. Setting boundaries for your teen is important and they need to respect and follow these boundaries. Setting parental boundaries that are requested by your teenager, is appropriate also, as it demonstrates, respect and fairness.
4. Keep your personal fears separate from the behaviors of your teen. Your personal fears can cloud your judgement, perception, and emotions when dealing with a teen challenge.
Can Parents and Teens "Reconnect" with each other during the social pressures and demands of mobile phone use?
Mobile phones are part of our lives today and their availability plus popular features are growing every day! People of every age are beginning to own/use cell phones from adults down to the elementary age children. As a teacher, I have observed the increase in the use of mobile phones especially in the teenage population. There have been noticeable positive and negative effects from the use of mobile phones by teenagers, however, the majority of the negative effects were results of a lack of set limitations on the use of their personal phones. Are cell phones an earned privilege, like the use of a car, or a "right?" Teenagers love the connections they have with their phones, what would happen if they did not have that connection anymore?
Reflect about your mobile phone situation with your teenager. Is there conflict? Is there a disconnect or a lack of communication? What cell phone issues are the topic or the fuel of these conflicts? What can you do as a parent to create a positive change, that resolves conflict, increases communication, reconnects with your child, all with getting the positive benefits of the use of a cell phone with your family and teens.
As a baseball coach, I had a cell phone and all of my athletes had cell phones, however I set limitations so that cell phones did not take away from the task and focus at hand. We did not use our cell phones during practice, unless for an emergency. We set guidelines on the bus for away trips also. If the players wanted to use their phones for music, talking, school work etc they had up until the "fifteen minute" to go signal from Coach. Then, everything was turned off, put away, and focus went totally on the the game. When the fellas knew the limitations, everything was stress free, smooth sailing, and trouble free. Teenagers actually want guidance and structure. When teenagers are given specific guidelines to follow, and then follow these preset guidelines, many positive effects can result from the use of mobile phones which include issues with family, safety, academics, communication and social skills. Here are some very beneficial results of positive uses of mobile for use for teenagers, along with with some negative effects when limitations.
Possible negative effects of teenage cell phone use without limitations:
How to Track a Cell Phone & Show the Exact Location
Track a Cell Phone & Show the Exact Location
Tracking a can help recover a lost or stolen device. It can also help the user find his location when traveling or keep track of a family member or loved one. A phone owner can track a cellular phone using a global positioning satellite, or GPS, chip. The chips are already installed in many newer phones and can be bought and installed in older phones. A variety of services are available for tracking the phone, and many cell phone companies offer GPS locating in-house
Each family and situation is unique in its own way. These are merely just a few of the benefits and and negative effects that I have observed with the use of cell phones with teenagers. The bottom line, just like anything, with guidance, discipline, rules and consequences, I have observed great benefits for both parents and teenagers. I have witnessed and increase in communication skills and a total reconnect between parents and teens.
As a teen, what are some pro's and con's in the way your parents brought you up? Did it Resolve or initiate conflict?
I have recently administered a survey to family, colleagues, and friends that asked them to reflect back to their own teenage years. This survey was simply to identify strategies that their parents used to communicate, discipline, and have a relationship with them during those challenging yet exciting teenage years. What were the Pro's and Con's of the strategies, and how did they affect conflict? Engaging in this process, initiated memories of my teenager years with parent interaction. After reading through these strategies from myself and others, can you identify, make adjustments, or pat yourself on the back?
Parent/Teen interactions- PRO'S
1. " My parents never yelled at me in front of my friends."
2. " Never afraid to be wrong, you will never find the courage to find what is genuinely right."
3. " Liked having MOM home everyday after school."
4. " Encouraged me to try new skills and follow my strength."
5. " Strong family, moral values, and character that last through today!
Parent/Teen interactions- Con's
1. " When I was your age!"
2. " Nothing I did was ever good enough"
3. " I was babied and over-protected!"
4. " Too lenient, too naive, lack of knowledge"
5. " Didn't teach or talk about politics and current events"
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As an educator for 18 years, I was given the awesome opportunity to work with our youth of all ages. One condition remained constant through all of my years of interaction with the students. ( This was especially observable in teenagers, however, it was so much easier when started at a younger age. ) As the teens self-confidence and self-esteem increased, so did their participation level, effort, class attendance, positive peer interaction and dedication to study habits. Using self-confidence boosters as a teacher returned immediate and direct feedback. I was able to physically observe the behavioral changes in my students. When they demonstrated positive behavioral change, it lead to an increased feeling of self-worth, which led to a huge smile on their face.
Building self-confidence and self-esteem is in direct relation with some of the choices they make when they encounter adolescent challenges. Teenagers are very impressionable and are making choices and taking various paths everyday. The degree of self confidence can determine in which direction the teens choose. The message here is, we as adults, need to do whatever it takes to help boost our teenagers self-confidence and self-esteem! Here some strategies to help increase your teens self-confidence!
Negative stress Yuk! It is not good for any of us for many reasons; for relationships, let the dominoes start to tumble. If we want our relationships to shine and create a peaceful, loving, and respectful atmosphere, we do not need to bring our own negative stress into a situation that may already have its own possibilities of conflict. I am sure you have heard the expression, " don't just come home and kick the dog because you had a bad day at work!" First off.... Please don't kick your dog! We need to find natural ways of de-stressing or maintaining a low stressed life style. Here are some strategies that have been proven to work for myself and others that you may be using or choose to use in the near future.... What I mean by near future is, today! If you want to feel that impact, lightness, and peacefulness that travels through your mind and body, let's get started!
An excerpt from
Habits Die Hard
by Mac Anderson & John J. MurphyI am your constant companion.
I am your greatest asset or heaviest burden.
I will push you up to success or down to disappointment.
I am at your command.
Half the things you do might just as well be turned over to me.
For I can do them quickly, correctly, and profitably.
I am easily managed; just be firm with me.
Those who are great, I have made great.
Those who are failures, I have made failures.
I am not a machine, though I work with the precision of a
machine and the intelligence of a person.
You can run me for profit, or you can run me for ruin.
Show me how you want it done. Educate me. Train me.
Lead me. Reward me.
And I will then...do it automatically.
I am your servant.
Who am I?
I am a habit.
When we choose a positive behavior and receive positive results, why not make that a habit? We all speak about all of these bad habits we need to break...... What about creating some powerful, impactul, healthy and meaningful habits that reward you and your family? Coach Anthony Fazzary
I really dislike the word "dealing" when describing getting along with your teen, instead we will say communicating. As parents, let's not forget that you are in a much different time and place with many different thoughts and priorities than your teen. Of course that will lead to some disagreements, however, what are your actions prior to the disagreement, what behaviors have you shown in the past, what have you been modeling? If there were negative results or conflict with your teen, then what changes on your end can you do to be proactive and the leader in this positive change.
I'll tell you what, I've taught for years, and one very common need from teenagers is that they want adults, especially their parents, to talk openly to them by being respectful and honest. Teenagers really feel "part of the communication process not just an "object" getting screamed at or down to.
If you notice positive qualities and behaviors that your teen has shown, praise them, they will respond in their way, but it will warm their heart even if they don't admit it in front of you.
My great parents, I want you to realize, I'm not saying that teens can't be tough and very difficult, sometimes even day to day, however, if they realize that their folks are being fair, honest, and respectful the Parent/Teen relationship will take a energizing and positive spin. Coach Anthony
Hello all you motivated wonderful people! Welcome to my first blog. I want to welcome you, and inform you that we will be sharing motivational, inspirational, health and wellness, teen and parent challenge issues here! I hope to see ya soon, Coach Anthony
Coach Anthony Fazzary
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